Falling in Love Again

On the expansive power of falling in love again—with people and purpose—through devotion, presence, and the small steps that sustain it.

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”

— M. Berg

That line has been echoing in my mind all week. The more I sit with it, the more I realize it’s not just about marriage—it’s about everything. Because the truth is, love isn’t the soft answer; it’s the hard one. It’s the only true cure we’ve got for the chaos we see in the world right now. Turn on the news and it’s impossible not to feel the heaviness: division, protests, hate, violence—all the by-products of people who’ve forgotten how to love.

There’s no coincidence that the divorce rate is what it is and that the world is unraveling in parallel. When love breaks down in the home, it fractures out into the culture. The way back is grassroots: families, partners, friends, communities—the small, daily acts of choosing love again and again. That’s the real revolution.

Vulnerability: The Bridge Back to Connection

In a conversation with a new friend the other day, we were talking about the depth of connection and the importance of being vulnerable with the people closest to us. She said something that brought me right back into my consciousness:

“We can’t segment ourselves and be vulnerable at the same time.”

It rang like a bell. She was right. We spend so much of life managing what people see—curating, protecting, editing—and then wonder why love feels distant or flat. You can’t fall in love, again and again, with someone—or with life itself—if you’re unwilling to be seen fully. Vulnerability is the bridge. It’s the heartbeat of every long-term relationship, every meaningful friendship, every grounded community. It’s what keeps love alive long after the novelty fades.

Love in Practice: Where It Showed Up This Week

That realization kept showing up this week in small but powerful ways.

It happened with my kids. We spent half the day playing board games—laughing, talking trash, just being together. At one point they said, “I love doing this. Can we do it more often?” To hear that from teenagers in 2025, who could have easily been buried in their screens, was priceless. It reminded me that connection doesn’t require strategy; it requires presence. The simple moments—no agenda, no rush, no distraction—are the soil where love grows.

It surfaced again while listening to a conversation between Kelly Brogan and Rabbi Friedman about what marriage really means (episode 117 of Reclamation Radio if you’re interested). That led me down a short rabbit hole to one of my Kabbalah teachers, where Monica’s whole point was seeing love not as a contract or a label, but as a deliberate choice to return—to fall in love, over and over, with the same person. To see them anew each time. To keep tending to the small, quiet rituals that hold a relationship together when the world outside wants to pull it apart. It struck me that this is the same devotion required in every meaningful area of life—health, purpose, faith. Love isn’t about intensity; it’s about consistency.

Embodiment: Falling Back Into the Body

It showed up again in my Reclaim Your Range™ class. This work keeps humbling me. Watching people reconnect with their bodies—feel what moves, what doesn’t, where they’ve gone numb—reminds me why I do it. In a culture that lives from the neck up, embodiment has become a lost art. But when people drop to the floor and start exploring what their body can or can’t do, something shifts. That look has become a benchmark—the look that says, “Oh, this is what it feels like to be back in my body again.”

I caught myself in that same trap earlier this week. Those who’ve taken classes with me have seen it full force—I use myself as the guinea pig often. Historically, my left hip has been giving me trouble, and more than once, I thought, I’ll just wait till class to work on it. The irony wasn’t lost on me. Here I am teaching others to do the small daily work while skipping my own. Then I heard that little voice: It’s four minutes, Alex. Four minutes. So I got on the floor and did the work. Because I know what happens when I do—and what happens when I don’t, that’s the point. The basics are never convenient, but they’re always worth it.

Writing this even reminds me of Darren Hardy’s line from The Compound Effect:

“Small, smart choices + consistency + time = radical difference.”

Community: Showing Up When It’s Hard

Later, my community brought the message home once again. Getting together over Friday-night dinner was exactly the needed prescription after a heavy week—being back in that room grounded me in what’s real, and in the love I have for so many of those people. I found myself in conversation with someone who wasn’t sure whether to keep showing up, and I told him what I’ve learned after years of building communities: the number-one ingredient for a thriving one is showing up—especially when you don’t want to. Everyone wants to belong, but belonging requires reciprocity. Sometimes your presence is the thing that keeps someone else from walking away. Other times, it’s your choice to be there that gives them the hope and courage to fight another day.

And then, in perfect timing, another conversation opened a new door. A friend in the sound-healing space and I began planning a collaboration that blends his world with mine: sound and mobility, vibration and movement, energy and embodiment. The goal isn’t to add something new to the noise but to help people return to the foundation of who they are. It’s one more way to fall back in love with the basics.

When I zoom out on the week, I can see the pattern. Every thread leads back to the same truth. Love—in all its forms—is a practice of returning: to our partners, our families, our bodies, our communities, ourselves. The world doesn’t need more innovation; it needs more devotion. If more of us tended to love in these small, daily ways—if we kept falling in love again, always with the same people, the same practices, the same foundations—we’d start to see it ripple outward. What we cultivate at home becomes the energy that heals everything else.

Returning to the Basics

So this week, maybe that’s the invitation: don’t chase the next big thing, and don’t wait for perfect timing. Just fall in love again—with the basics, with the truth that’s already right in front of you, and with the quiet work of returning to it, over and over again.

If you’re in relationship, put a little intention behind reconnecting with your person. A small gesture, a shared laugh, a real conversation. It doesn’t have to be grand—just a conscious act of coming back to connection. Pause in the moment and come back to a single thing you really love about them. Show them, hold them, sit with them—just make the choice to be present for a moment with them.

If you’re local to Central Oregon and curious about Reclaim Your Range™ classes, get on the list [here]! It’s also the list to be on for the upcoming sound + movement collaboration, blending vibration and mobility to help you return to the foundation of who you are.

Early sign-up for the 2026 SnoLab™ will open within the next week or so and includes some great perks. Remember, it’s a limited engagement—only twelve spots in the eight-week program—so if you’ve been thinking about it, this is the time to jump in.

As always, wishing you the best in health in the week ahead,

— Alex